Heart Over Head

"You have to come to sign for my court marriage as a witness ". She told me.

Court Marriage ...I had always thought of it as a joke and formed it as a part of many jokes.

I had never thought i will be part of one such marriage. Specially after I have successfully finished my own very well Arranged Marriage without anybody’s signature. After giving a huge thought
I gave a reply..." What’s the hurry....??"

" I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life."...came the answer ...reminding me of Kareena Kapoor of jab we met..

Since I was a friend for quite some time I was close to her family as well. I could see the Gabbar Singh (as always girls father) hitting me and me acting like rajpal yadav and "the mandir ka ghanta " scene for assisting them in the so called marriage.

So I tried to reason her out.

"Who is the boy"....I could muster the courage to ask her.

She gave a puzzled and angry look..

"Not that I don’t trust you ...But aint I suppose to know ... I mean ...aaa.. I mean legally I will be signing on some document...naaa... that I know him..Wont I ...I ...I don’t know actually..." I tried to pacify and clarify..

"Dint I tell You...He is studying abroad in an beautiful country Switzerland..What a wonderful place ..You know many movies of yashraj ki shooting wahi hui thi... . .and getting some degree..."

"What degreee...?" I asked
Again she gave a puzzled and angry look..

"No I mean ...doctor ...engineer...architect......No...Not that it matters. " .. I said...wanted to but dint add that my signature will remain same for all the three professions...

"Actually I think he is doing something related to medicine ...so must be a doctor...”. She replied for a change instead of puzzled and angry look.

The way she answered made me feel like she is least interested in anything other than the boy so I avoided questions about his roots..Families..Hometowns etc...Moreover my signature wasn’t going to change for any of the above factors.

"Is he an Indian...." Again a stupid question considering my signature is independent of the nationality of the groom.

Again the angry puzzled look and no words. I assumed that yes was the answer.

"No...No I mean I haven’t seen him ....not that I have any chance..Of going to Switzerland...but still my friend is going to marry him ...I am a bit curious just that much...that’s all...”

"Ok here take his number ...xxx-xxxxxxx call him whenever u find time...but make sure that he is awake that time and don’t disturb him...” She obliged more than was asked for.

I saw the number and something told me that I have seen this number…Somewhere
Arey It was similar number to one of my best friends ...in Austrailia.. Then why is this guy saying that he is from Switzerland.....I attributed this to the craze of Bollywood and Yashraj....and left it there.

Once she left with the threat that the guy is coming next week and you have to be there at the court .

I decided to call the number assuming that at least the guy must be knowing better than the girl …what is he coming to India for… and whether he knows about the girl and the marriage.

" Hi.." I wished him.
"Hi bhaiyaa.....Can I call You bhaiyaa…Mera koi bhai nahi hai naa.." He replied . I wondered whether he wishes that to everyone or I am something special...( Obviously he was expecting my call )

But his answer made me know that he is an Indian.(yes I was still doubtful)

"Of course ......you can ...What’s your name ... What do I call you then..Where in India are you from and where did you do your education from...What is that you are doing in Switzerland.."..I asked in one breath all my questions....which of course weren’t going to affect the signature but still somehow I could imagine myself sitting in front of a 3rd degree enquiry with the bulb hanging right over head and lights right on the eye and muscular men asking me who is this person you witnessed for in his marriage...how do you know him..And how many times you assisted him in smuggling weapons...

He replied he is from rishikesh...but studied coincidentally from my school and was my junior only. Both the places names struck some chord and there on our conversation clicked. I asked him since when did he knew the girl ...

Came filmy dialogue..

"Mile hue to 10-15 din hi hue hai but aisa lagta hai...jaise janmon se jaanta hoo usee.."..

That was first time the thought crossed my mind..."Am I that old to understand their love of 15 days ..hamne to 15 din mein kissi ladki se dosti bhi nahi kee Marriage...to never even crossed my mind..."..Then came back the spirit..Key farak painda hai ...miya biwi raazi to kya karega kaazi...and of course My signature will remain the same even if its 15 years old love...But yes he was well prepared and informed about who he was talking to and knew me well and I realized the Bhaiyaa thing may not for everyone

I thought of Dosti jab kisi se ke jaaye ....To dushmano ki bhi rai lee jaaye...kyonki ek baar Dosti ki hai to nibhaani to padegi bhi... hence as a part of dosti nibhana...

I tried to reason him out ..with some statements like ...

"Whats the hurry..??" ...No effect on him...

"Why Don't you take some time...."...No effect

"Marriage is a book of which the first chapter is written in poetry and the remaining chapters in prose.. So chill out and take some time before you decide... and take my signature"….no effect

"Mom Dad ke baarey mein socho...".. No effect

"Think about your family your sisters...".. No effect

"Your life after marriage" No Effect

"Love marriage or arranged marriage "...No effect...

You could be thinking by now why was I trying so desperately...after all my signature will remain same.....Actually Yes but well again my imagination helped me create a scene where I am tied to a chair with both husband and wife hitting me with each chappals and saying " ham to bachche the par aap ko to samjhaana chahiye tha"..

But something in my mind told me that they are not bachchas and will see the light of sense. They have not yet had the chills and fever of love in full stream and they wanna settle down in 98.6 of marriage. I gave one last try...

"Good that you are marrying ...Everybody should marry. After all happiness is not the only thing..." I said.

"Why" he asked...For the first time I thought that my funny statement had evoked an effect on him...

I got the line....of Attack.

"Dude Life before marriage is the best ... In fact the moments you spend with your "to be” are the best and the most memorable moments in life...which you will never forget...and when u retire and age..And sit back in your house of dreams will remember those moments so why not expand and maximize the number of events by having the days as much as possible."

"Is it...” He asked ....phewwwww.. it was working...

"Actually Yes...These are and will be your best romantic moments ...take it from your elder brother..." I answered...For the first time in the whole conversation all the words came out directly from my heart...even the words Elder brother...

After a little more heart talk and convincing , to my surprise he agreed ....and decided that he will take time and may be go for the marriage next year ...I guess I should have used my heart than the brain...

Generally I use my heart only but guess since wherever I sign I use my mind and hence I was using my Mind only all through the conversation...

So I came out of the situation where I had sign without using my mind….

Let’s wait n watch till next year….May be families will join and My signature will not at all be required Till Then I will keep using my heart ahead of mind…